Anita Meena Wiesendt · Coach & Author

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My Story

Adopted from Bangalore, raised in Germany — my search for roots and identity became my calling.

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Author

I write about what many stay silent about — on social media and soon beyond.

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Coach

I accompany adoptees and adoptive parents — with empathy and lived experience.

About

A story that shaped me

On 3 March 1978, I was born in Bangalore, India — and a few months later, adopted to Germany. What looked like a fresh start carried within it an invisible story that was to accompany me throughout my life.

For years, I struggled to say the word "adoption". It sounded foreign. Today I know that my story does not begin with the adoption — it had already begun in the womb.

I live in an Indo-German-French family — this intercultural richness shapes my view of identity and belonging, every single day.

I see in every person an independent, free and valuable individual.

As an adoptee, coach and author, I speak about what many stay silent about: loss, the search, and the deep longing for roots. And what healing can truly look like.

Coaching

Your path to your own story

I accompany you in embracing your story — not despite its wounds, but with them.

First Contact & Community free of charge

Free Consultation

You don't know exactly what you need yet — but you sense that now is the right moment. Tell me what's on your mind and what you're hoping for. Together we'll see where the path might lead.

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Adoptee Circle · Intercountry Adoptee Space

Once a month we come together — adoptees among themselves. A safe space for mindful and honest sharing. No one has to speak — you can simply listen, arrive and build trust. Step by step, at your own pace. You are not alone.

Every first Tuesday of the month · 7:00 PM · Registration by email

Adoptive Parents Circle · Adoptive Parents Space

For adoptive parents who want to better understand their child.

This circle is an open, protected space — for adoptive parents who want to exchange experiences, learn from each other and grow stronger together. Guided by me — as an adoptee.

For more ease in your family life!

This offering is taking shape. Get in touch if you'd like to be part of it.

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Personal Accompaniment

For Adoptees

You sense there is something — a pain without a name, an emptiness that won't be filled.

Here you are safe. Here you are seen. Together we'll go where the answers truly lie.

...of not truly belonging anywhere — neither here nor there?
...that something is missing, but you don't know what?
...of being torn between gratitude and a pain no one sees?
...of being alone with your story?
...of not knowing who to talk to about your adoption — for fear of not being understood?
...of being seen as "foreign" because of your skin colour or origin — even though this is the country you call home?
...of not being good enough — without knowing why?

Then you are in exactly the right place. These are completely natural thoughts and feelings for an adopted person — the invisible traces of adoption that deserve to be named.

Together, we find words for what you have been carrying inside you for so long.

Coaching · Counselling · Acute support

Also for partners, relatives & friends

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For Adoptive Parents

Love alone is not always enough — because it cannot compensate for the pain of loss that your adopted child carries within.

Your adopted child already had a story before the adoption. An origin that doesn't disappear just because it is unknown.

...of loving your adopted child so much — and yet sometimes not understanding what is going on inside them?
...of wishing to be a completely "normal" family — and at the same time sensing that this isn't quite true?
...of not knowing how to handle your child's past — the physical and emotional imprints that began long before you?
...of not knowing how to approach the topic of biological parents?
...that you too, as an adoptive parent, carry a pain that hasn't yet found its place?

These are completely normal feelings. Your adopted child loves you — and at the same time carries a loss that has nothing to do with you.

I accompany you — authentically, as an adoptee who knows both sides.

Coaching · Counselling · Acute support

In exceptional cases also for young people from 16 years

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True belonging begins where we acknowledge all our roots.

A story that shaped me

Your path to your own story

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True belonging begins where we acknowledge all our roots.

A story that shaped me

Your path to your own story

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